How do you feel about receiving? Gifts, compliments, praise, love, help, suggestions, money? There is definitely an art to receiving graciously and gracefully. Receiving gives others an opportunity to be generous, to feel good about themselves. Have you ever caught yourself keeping score? Such as, she paid for coffee so I need to reciprocate in some way or she treated me to lunch so I should pick up the tab next time. One of my favorite people, SARK, states in her latest newsletter “Most people carry around some kind of internal scorecard about what they’ve been given, so that they can “repay” it in some way. That way, their receiving has limits and controls and is “fair.” Some of this behavior is fun and natural- giving back after you’ve been given to- and some of it is a form of blocking receiving.” What would happen if the next time you received a compliment, you simply said thank you? How would the giver feel? How would you feel? Awareness is the first step in learning how to receive gracefully. Practicing on a daily basis will allow you to receive with gratitude and humility.
What about you? How do you block receiving in your life? How can you become comfortable in receiving from others? If you have been keeping score, how can you let go of this practice? What would happen if you allowed others to reach out to you in the spirit of giving? How will you benefit when you allow yourself to receive graciously and gracefully?
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson